In my world, evenings are sacred. Well, I actually believe that my entire day is sacred. But at the end of the day, when I'm done with work and my professional responsibilities are done, I make time to be present by following these ABC's (MNOPQ's).
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Eating mindfully brings me to the present moment, every single time. I get to taste the foods in my mouth, their textures, temperatures, and notice the speed at which I chew. This way of consuming food forever changed the relationship I have to food. It gives me permission to eat when I'm hungry, to eat till I'm full enough, and to enjoy the act of eating. I no longer feel guilty for eating what I choose or feel disconnected from my body when I eat.
**Simple Tip: Sit down to eat and take three deep breaths before you begin eating. Notice how it changes your experience of nourishing your body.
Just like you, I have days like these. Mama said there would be days like these. And she was right! The ones where I'm exhausted, haven't had a break and just want to pour a huge glass of wine, or two, and numb myself from feeling anything. Just like you, I will do exactly that some days. But before I do, I make sure it's a choice, rather than a reaction, habit or pattern that isn't serving me. If I observe that I've done that too many days in a row, I'll opt to take a bath, write in my journal, or have a nice cup of herbal tea instead. These options let me decide what is best for me, rather than just imbibing because it's "what I always do."
**Simple Tip: Before you go to the bottle, or whatever your vice is, next time you have one of those days, ask yourself "What would it feel like to choose something else tonight?"
Making conversation after a long day doesn't have to be like pulling teeth. I've found that the way questions are asked makes all the difference in the world. In my family, my wonderful mom is known for asking 20 questions to get all the information out of us...but they were usually yes/no questions. She wouldn't get the information she was looking for, so she just kept asking. Now that I'm in the business of asking questions, I want them to be thought provoking, high mileage questions.
**Simple Tip: Ask these questions to get your next family conversations started.
For most of the day, the task list is dictated by someone, or something else, other than our passions. The evening is a great time to ignite desire towards what you love. One of my favorite Rumi quotes says, "Let the beauty that you love, be what you do." In the evenings, I carve out time to cook, play board games, teach yoga, journal, connect with dear friends, and have date nights with my sweetie. These are all things that I love, and I make time for them. Again, it's a choice to plan these into my week.
**Simple Tip: Look at your calendar for the next week. When can you spend time in the way you want? Schedule it!
I'm a huge advocate of spending quality time with others, and even with myself for that matter. It is my top Love Language, which means that's how I want to love and be loved. If you spend intentional time with me, you'll win my heart over forever! How many of you come home, plop down in front of a screen and give your half-assed attention to those you love? May I suggest something different?
**Simple Tip: Make a family rule to turn off electronics for at least an hour during the evening so you can actually eat mindfully, stop being distracted, have open conversations, learn about each others passions and spend some quality time together.
These are just a few ways that let me choose how I spend my day. What are some of the ways you unwind from your day? Share them below.
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